Not everyone wants to change their karma...

Eli is sitting in front of me. He has Parkinson’s disease, he wants to get well, and this is the third time that he’s come to me to do a constellation.

The first time, it was just me and him, and we did a family constellation relating to his father’s side.

The second time, we did a representative constellation that worked on his mother’s side.

Now, he feels that the right thing for him to do would be another representative constellation session.

We set up a representation for Eli and another for Parkinson’s, but very quickly his father appears in the field and his experience is: “I take on all of my father’s problems.”

Eli’s father is 76 years old. He’s healthy but a hypochondriac who sees doctors all the time.

He’s seemingly the exact opposite of his son Eli, who is in his 40s, has Parkinson’s, doesn’t like doctors, and doesn’t consult with them.

When dealing with family systems, we have to give great respect to loyalty—both declared loyalty, and hidden loyalty.

Often hidden loyalty will be: the child’s readiness to take on the illnesses of their parents so that their parents will love them and they would be happy with their lives.

And that’s what we have here.

Eli tells me that his father is in business, but that Eli absorbs all his financial blunders, and that’s fine with him.

Two questions come to mind when he tells this:

1. Is it really okay?

2. What else does he absorb for his father?

The representative for Eli provides the answer:

“No, it’s not really okay for him to absorb everything for his father.”

We discover that there is such great loyalty here, that the son, who is ill, is prepared to give up his life, not metaphorically but practically for his father.

This is the truth and there is nothing to do but accept it.

There is nowhere to move, the session feels stuck, and we often stop here, but I find myself curious about another thing: I want to know and understand the karmic, soul discourse.

The soul that chooses Parkinson’s—what is there in that?

So we “fold up” the previous constellation, and start over.

We set up representations for Eli, Eli’s soul, and Parkinson’s.

The soul looks at Parkinson’s and immediately says, “That’s not mine.”

I set up a representation for a soul lesson related to Parkinson’s, and the soul looks at it and says again, “That’s not mine.”

I set up a representation for Eli’s father’s soul.

His father’s soul looks at the soul lesson and Parkinson’s, and says, “I’m fine with them.”

What related to the father’s soul caused something to be expressed in his son’s body?

I add a representation for the soul contract between Eli and his father, and then another for the reincarnation that created the soul lesson.

I add representations for Eli in a previous incarnation and for Eli’s father in the same incarnation.

A story of abuse emerges. A story in which Eli was a sadist who abused many people, and his father, who wasn’t his father in that incarnation, suffered at his hand.

That is, until he said to him, “No! You won’t abuse me anymore,” and that changed the balance of power between them.

We return again to the representation of the soul contract. The contract says, “Incarnations are at play here. In each incarnation, one is the victim and the other is the perpetrator, and in each incarnation, the life of one of them is taken.”

I stop the session because it’s important for me to clarify the consequences to Eli: “There is a chance that if we change the contract, your father will die.”

In addition, we have karma here—a cycle of ages in which we are hurt by it every time.

Eli’s not interested in changing his karma, what he is interested in is living, and this time, he doesn’t care if it’s at his father’s expense.

We continue.

The soul of Eli’s father says, “It’s okay with me that this time, Eli will live.’

Eli’s soul feels big and strong.

I end the karmic session and ask those who represented Eli and Parkinson’s at the beginning of the session to return to the field.

I want to see what’s changed.

This time they aren’t connected to each other.

Eli’s representation looks at Parkinson’s and says, “Now I need it less.”

Parkinson’s representation says, ‘I’m here for Eli if Eli needs me.”

I add a representation for the father, and the Parkinson’s representation goes to him and says, “This is where I belong.”

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This session was unique and combined two constellation perceptions within it:

The minimalist constellational concept of family constellation, and the perception of the karmic constellation.

Without the point of view of the soul and without the multidimensional and timeless perspective, no change could have been made.

In the end, I didn’t change karmic cycles here, and nor did I change a contract.

In fact, as a therapist, I have no right to change Eli’s father’s contract with Eli, and I have no right to influence Eli’s father.

My job is to support Eli.

What happened in the session was Eli’s full release from loyalty to his father, which was at his expense.

It was not a conscious statement of “I release you, Dad,” but rather a release from deep and hidden levels that are in Eli’s subconscious.