Natasha is looking for a relationship

Meet Natasha, 34 years old. Since she turned 20, she and her parents have been looking for a life partner.

We decided to focus on treating whatever is blocking her from attracting a partner.

We set up four representations: for her, her soul, a partner, and the block.

At first, the experience was of walls, of a lack of connection, and of fatigue.

She stood on her soul and felt a lot of voices shouting and arguing with each other. When the soul moved, the voices subsided and she saw a girl of 7 or 8 years old, and she felt great sadness.

We added a representation for the girl.

The voices continued.

The soul no longer heard them but “the block” did hear them.

We set up a representation for the voices.

The girl looked at the voices and saw that they were taking all her possessions from her and leaving her on her own.

I wondered if those voices represented the girl’s parents.

We added representations for those parents, and indeed, the voices were theirs and the story became clearer:

The father hadn’t wanted the girl, and the mother, in order to save her life, agreed to send the girl away.

At some point, because the father felt disconnected from the girl and the girl felt she was rebelling against him, I asked if he really was the girl’s biological father, and the answer was “No.”

We added a representation for the biological father, and the whole story emerged:

There had been a rape.

As a result, the mother had become pregnant and the father agreed to raise the girl—until his fear of society grew and they sent the girl away.

When all this was revealed, the system became silent, but I still wondered how this was related to the current story, this current life, and the block.

I decided to try something.

At the beginning of the session, when Natasha talked about her parents and the society she lives in, it felt as if something in the parents was blocked, more so than for her.

I set up a representation for her parents today, in their current incarnation, and I asked if they were connected to her parents from the previous incarnation.

“Yes,” they answered.

It turned out that the mother of today is the mother from the previous incarnation (even from the representational point of view, both were threads in different shades of green), and today’s biological father is the non-biological father from the previous incarnation.

In the previous incarnation, the parents did send the girl away, but they felt guilty about it and promised themselves it would never happen again.

They carried that promise into this incarnation, and that is what happened.

They held Natasha so tight, and they didn’t notice that she wasn’t 8 years old anymore, she was 34, and it was okay for her to leave home.

Natasha held within her the promise they made to themselves in that incarnation—it was part of her loyalty to them and of the memory of the previous incarnation.

She felt a need to tell her parents that she promises not to leave them, even if and when she got married, when basically she’s been bearing their fear of leaving her.

We returned the promise to her parents, and Natasha opened up to the option of a partner who would offer her a different life than the one she was living.

At the end of the session, Natasha felt freer and had more energy.

I advised her to share this session with her parents, because the relationship and block were related to her parents, and as such, sharing it could also free them from clinging to past memories.

A karmic constellation is an experiential process in which the experience passes mainly through the body—through feelings and emotions—and less through cognition and the mind.

It’s like entering the dream world for a certain moment.

And this experiential process is what enables concrete changes to occur in our lives.